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Opening yourself to your emotions has several benefits:
- You'll feel less distressed by them.
- You'll self-sabotage less.
- You'll learn more from your emotions.
- You'll be better guided by your emotions.
There are lots of ways to do this. Here is a guide. Pick and mix the strategies that appeal to you.
It’s frequently noted that we’re not addicted to a substance, activity, or relationship as such but to how they make us feel.
We may not even like the taste of 100-proof vodka, but if it gets us high, takes us to a more comfortable place, a less agitated state of consciousness, it could end up being our go-to drink. As long as it reliably helps us feel better, or at least less bad, we’re liable to get hooked on it. And indefinitely so.
I’ve gone to therapy at several points in my life. The first time was after a breakup. This is actually a pretty common time to seek help — lots of people go to therapy after a big life event.
But the second time I went, I didn’t have a “big” reason.
We all have times when we're overwhelmed by our to-do list. When we feel overloaded, it can be hard to think strategically.
Why does this happen? When we feel overwhelmed, we tend to have a fight, flight, or freeze response. None of these options makes it easy to think calmly about the smoothest way to approach items on our list.
Anorexia and Hysteria: A Shared History
Before modern medicine, unexplained women’s behaviors and illnesses were diagnosed as hysteria.1
Symptoms of hysteria included, but weren’t limited to, fever and physical pain, as well as behaviors that didn’t fit female stereotypes of passivity, feebleness, and fragility. Mood swings, anxiety, and depression were all considered symptoms of hysteria.2
Early in the response to the coronavirus, Dr. Marvin Seppala, chief medical officer at the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation warned that moving people in recovery from addiction to online meetings could have a price. “We consider addiction a disease of isolation,” he said.
Cassie was 14 when her father left her mother, moving into an apartment across town. She dealt with the trauma of their separation by skipping school, experimenting with drugs, and staying out late with boys, and she was even caught shoplifting.
But she was 18 when he left her. Reporting to mutual family members that he "couldn't handle" Cassie's behavior anymore, he stopped answering the phone and moved in with a new woman. As he began a completely new family, it was clear that Cassie was no longer welcome.
Most of the time when I write about couples, I focus on steps individuals can take to feel closer to their partner and more satisfied in the relationship. Because a person can only fully control themselves, I try to illustrate ideas that any one person can enact, which would hopefully lead their partner to respond or shift the winds of the relationship more favorably.